First and foremost I want to make it clear that I in no way believe I may remotely have, or be inclined to know any definitive answers to the crazy world that is parenting. As a parent to a preschooler, ever day can be different. Some days I think “holy mother of god, save me from this devil spawn! What the hell am I doing wrong?!”. Other days I think “YES! Mumma’s got this, I deserve a damn medal”. No matter what the day brings as a parent, all I know is that I love my child unconditionally and do the best I can to raise him in a safe, loving and nurturing environment. No one will ever love my child more than his father or I. Just as I’ll never know what’s best for someone else’s kid, no-one should assume they know what’s best for mine. Each child’s personality is different and unique, and as well as each parent’s personality being different, so too are their core beliefs and values. So there are choices I make as a parent when it comes to raising my child that may work wonderfully for me, but may not necessarily work for other parents and vice versa.
Now sharing parenting experiences can be great, although unsolicited parenting advice can not only be unwanted, but unhelpful and extremely annoying. Like when your toddler decides to have a very public and torturous meltdown (for the 3rd time that day) at your local shopping centre. Then to make things worse, along comes a random passing granny, parent who thinks they know better or town drunk (it’s happened!), who feels the need to pipe up with their two cents worth on how you should really be handling the situation. By that stage all you want to do is tell them to shut it, and if they’re not there to support team Mumma, they can go [insert colourful language here] themselves! I could go on all day with the different types of scenarios where unnecessary judgement is immediately cast onto parents. But my point is this, navigating the turbid waters of parenting can be treacherous enough, without all the scrutiny that comes with it. Not to mention all the conflicting articles, books, blogs and social media outcries that confuse the crap out of you. It’s enough for any parent to go totally cray cray. Yeah there’s some very obvious no-no’s when it comes to children, and it’s really sad when the police or child services have to get involved. However, I would think that the majority of parents are doing the best they can to give their kids the best life they can, the best way they know how.